Zonked? As a mother, I am sure you are tired and exhausted on many days. And then you open your social media accounts and you wonder how the other moms can be so awesome. They work, do so many activities with their kids and manage the house as well. I am amazed by how their kids even sit for so long because my Little Miss A has the concentration span of a goldfish. And in the present times of the lockdown, the pressure on moms has increased tremendously. The fathers are working equally hard but this post is for a mom, from a mom. I have a lot of respect for the fathers of the new generation especially, but as I said I am writing this for my super moms.
Table of Contents
Issues of a Mom
For all those who have read my posts in the Blogchatter A to Z, I have spoken about 25 aspects of the first four years of parenting. Parenting is not rocket science and it naturally comes to us, but the problem comes in when we stop trusting our maternal instincts when we start comparing our kids to the others and we forget they are unique. In your parenting journey, you will come across many issues. And trust me, you are not the only one. Each mother has issues, some talk about them and some do not.
In my case, it went from having a pre-term baby to breastfeeding issues, my decision to co-sleep to the time I did not send her to pre-school until she turned 2.5 years. Yesterday, on one of the mom groups on Facebook someone asked about when to potty train the baby and 90% of the comments said at 6 months. I am sure when they read my comment of 3 years, they thought I need help.
Stress and Anxiety are a Part and Parcel of Parenting
Not everyone will support all your decisions and also you will not be right always. You cannot be this perfect mom because there is nothing like a perfect mom. We all have our flaws and your child loves you the way you are. Children grow and so do their tantrums and anxiety levels. They reach the stage of terrible twos or as I would call them the terrific twos. You will lose your temper and they will get on your nerves. You need to figure out how you will handle the situation and what works best for you.
There is No Formula
Parenting does not come with a formula. Sadly, one size does not fit all. Kids will need to be disciplined and you will have to handle their anxiety also. Each child reacts in different ways and only a mom knows how to handle them. You will get a lot of unsolicited advice but it is important for your mental sanity that you filter it and use what suits your parenting style. Children do not come with a manual because a mother is supposed to know them, understand them and manage them. With time and experience, you will know what your child wants when they do not even say it. That is the selfless love of a mother. Enjoy your journey with them, spend quality time and record your memories.
Always remember you are doing a fantastic job super mummy.
“There will be times when you feel like you have failed. But in the eyes, heart and mind of your child-you are a Super Mom”
Thank You to the Community
As I end the last post of my first A to Z challenge, I have to thank my blogging community for the love and support. First and foremost, I have to thank the Blogchatter Team. You guys rock!!
In the last month, I have read some amazing posts and made awesome friends for life. It is incredible how I have never met them, but I can easily message any one of them and share my issues and talk.
My friend, Noor’s A to Z’s at www.nooranandchawla.com were about things to do in the lockdown and beating the lockdown blues. All her suggestions were fantastic, but reading her posts was my best way to beat the blues. Thank you, Noor. You know I love your content.
Another set of heartfelt and positive posts have been by my friend, Roma (https://www.trulyyoursroma.com/). Her letters to her grandchild about COVID-19 and the life lessons she wants to teach them are a must read for all parents and children. It takes to be a very sorted and amazing human being to write those posts. I learnt a lot from them too.
Surbhi (https://surbhiprapanna.com/) and Harjeet Ji (https://wordsmithkaur.com/) have shared healthy, easy and yummy recipes. I am not fond of cooking at all, but their posts inspire me to get into the kitchen and try my hand at it. I hope I will soon and if I do half a decent job, it will be all thanks to you both.
Archana (https://www.archusblog.com/), has written on my favorite subject, Bollywood. Some memorable characters and movies which do need special mention. I will miss your posts my dear friend.
I have to thank Sonia (https://soniasmusings.com/) for my daily dose of laughter. She has recommended the best stand-up comedians in her A to Z journey and I have seen some of them on weekends, and trust me, they have been the best stress buster.
Thank you, Jyoti (https://myviewsandreviews.in/) for the virtual tours in times when we are unsure when we will travel next and to Sundeep (http://www.rightpurchasing.com/) for helping us with tips to monetize the blogs. Simrit (https://suburbanspecial.blogspot.com/) and Kinshoo (http://www.momlearningwithbaby.com/) have given us some great activity ideas for kids.
The positive and inspiring posts by Swarnali (https://thelifeandlightblog.com/) are a must read for all to be happier and find their inner voice.
Debidutta (https://womb2cradlenbeyond.com/) wrote on infertility and has written some very useful content for mothers struggling with this. I have been there and I know what a mother feels. Kudos to her to relive that painful journey to help others and spreading positivity.
Last, but not the least, my favorite posts have been by Baby A. Shubhra(http://natkhatz.com/) thanks for giving words to her thoughts. Undoubtedly, the most adorable posts of the season.
I can go on and on, but I think I should stop now. Thanks to all my fellow bloggers for the amazing content you have written. Even if I have not mentioned you, you all have been wonderful. I have come this far just because of your support and encouragement. I would love to hear your honest feedback on my posts.
Do share if you liked my posts and which one was your favorite one.
Oh my God, thank you so much dear Arushi for the kind mention. You have been a constant source of encouragement for me. I thoroughly enjoyed your posts. Congratulations on the successful completion of A2Z challenge.
My pleasure entirely. Thank you. I am really excited to be able to finish the A to Z and it is because of the support and lovely comments of friends like you.
Arushi, first of all congratulations for successful completion of A2Z. I enjoyed reading your posts. They were coming straight form the heart. It was a recap for me when my daughter was born. Keep writing!!
Thanks Alpana. Your encouragement meant a lot in the series.
Aww thanks a lot arushi for mention..indeed it was an amazing journey of one month and hats off to all awesome bloggers who had pulled it off so well with their respective theme..a big congrats to you for completing challenge..I just loved your all posts and you had reminded me the time when my girls were little. as I also believed firmly in principle of positive parenting, so this was the another reason I felt so connected with your posts. keep rocking dear and wish you all the best for e book too ( hoping you are doing it)
Thank you so much for being with me on this journey. I a so glad you liked the posts
Thank you so much for the mention Arushi….Hope I inspire u enough to cook some time 🙂 Your posts have been such eyeopeners, hope many new moms learn from them. All the best in all your future endeavours. God Bless!
Thank you for the love and the blessings. Mean a lot
It has been an amazing journey reading your posts Arushi. I have come to gain so much confidence as a mother after reading your posts. I wish you all the best in your journey ahead and hope that you are converting this series into an ebook. It will make for a very relatable and useful read for mothers.
Thank you for the kind words Anupriya. I am glad you liked the posts. I am not sure of the ebook yet, still thinking about it
It’s been amazing reading your posts. They were informative and looked at parenting from a different perspective, I feel. I’m glad you’ve been trusting your maternal instincts and that you’re encouraging all mothers to do the same. There’s competition everywhere these days. Anyway, had a wonderful time. 😀
Thank you so much. I am glad you enjoyed reading the posts
Lovely round up post, all bloggers are really awesome and glad we all survived AtoZ successfully.
Yes, moms do get zonked but aren’t we up with refreshed energies again, isn’t it?
Yes you are right. Thank you to you too for the amazing posts and being a part of my first A to Z journey
Arushi 😍😊🤗🤗 This is awesome! I have been so honored and glad to have met you through these two blog challenges over couple of months. I thoroughly enjoyed your parenting tips and beautiful posts in the series. Thank you, girl, for the mention 🙏🤗 means a lot! Thank you for the constant support and encouragement that kept me going with this topic on travel at the time when traveling is banned. Thanks a ton! Looking forward to our continued interaction always!
Looking forward as well and thank you for being a part of this journey. 🙂
Firstly, congratulations on successfully completing your first A to Z Challenge!
Secondly, thanks so so so much for the shoutout Arushi!!
You know I absolutely love your content too and it’s because our parenting styles are incredibly similar- as are our political and cultural inclinations.
I was made fun of by fellow parents in my son’s pre-school because he was not potty-trained even at 2.5. It felt bad for a bit but then I realised that it was just their way of making themselves feel better about some other issue troubling them.
All we can do is love our children and raise them with the values that mean the most to us. I’m glad to know I have at least one fellow mom and friend who is on a similar path as me.
Hope to meet you very very soon! Hugs!
A big hug to you too. Thank you for guiding me always. Hope to see you soon!!
Arushi, thank you so much for your encouraging words. When the challenge started I was not sure whether I should participate and it was a last-minute decision. I loved reading your posts. Can connect with each one. Hope our paths keep crossing now.
Thank you for reading and I am glad you liked the posts. Please stay in touch 🙂
Thanks for the mention Arushi. It makes me happy to know that everybody liked my series and it was helpful.
Congratulations to you too for putting through such an informative and interesting series. I must say though I missed a few days, I thoroughly enjoyed it.
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Aww… Thank you so much for the mention Arushi.. it means a lot to me🤗. Congratulations on completing A-Z challenge. I loved all your posts. All the tips which you shared are so practical and real and little Miss A is a real cutie pie… Lots of love🤗
Thank you. I am glad you liked the posts. Lots of love to you too
Hey thanks for such a lovely positive post and the mention. Happy to know you find my work useful.
Thanks Kinshoo. 🙂
That is so sweet of you Arushi thank you so much for the mention and continuous support throughout the challenge dear, what a wonderful recap of all the posts, I thoroughly enjoyed the tips and treats of dealing kids and parenthood, Congratulations on
successful completion of the A2Z challenge friend.
Congratulations on completing AtoZ challenge. Parenting is not easy, First four years are challenged till the time you kids hit teenage.
People rush and take too much of stress on potty training, preschool etc. Kids get into grove automatically.
True, there isn’t any standard formula when it comes to Parenting, its an experience. It does stress out, at times, more so when children are small, but then we need to work around our energies, take ample rest and indulge in self-love too.
Such a lovely round up post Arushi and thanks a lot for the mention buddy. You know you will not realise but you too would have evolved so much as you wrote these 26 posts. Brilliant work my dear and all the best for your e-book
ya, I too enjoyed your post and it was amazing reading about parenting
Such a lovely round-up post, you have covered parenting beautifully. I was pretty lame in reading, the task of cooking up love stories was quite overwhelming. Nevertheless, I love reading posts here, will keep visiting. Congratulations on the completion of A2Z
A lovely wrap up post for A to Z and great advice. Comparisons are rarely helpful in parenting or life in general. Important to remember everyone has their own timeline and path.