What To Do When Kids Get On Your Nerves?

Does the title suggest that kids get on your nerves? The answer is a big yes because they do. Kids are undoubtedly God’s gift and they give happiness and meaning to life like no other. Little Miss A is no exception and motherhood is the best present I ever got. That does not mean all days are perfect and so is our life.

Bringing up a child can be frustrating and stressful. In the present times of the lockdown, when you are the only person they see and it is your job to keep them entertained all day, it is very normal for parents to get irritated and tired by the end of the day. Kids have the ability to test your patience. As a result, there are times when you will lose your cool and trust me, nothing else you would have ever done that will make you feel so guilty later.

You are Not a Bad Mother

I remember a few months back, Little Miss A had a meltdown every day before going to school. This was something I was not used to because she was always more than happy in the mornings. There was this morning, where after trying to calm her down for nearly two hours, I just lost it and shouted at her and sat and just cried. She was shocked and so was my husband because it was a new side of me that they were seeing. She was ok in no time and went to school and until this day, there have not been any tantrums.

This was not my strategy and I am not telling you this incident to try this trick. The point I am trying to make here is it happens to all of us. They do push us to a limit and at the end of the day, before being a mom, we are humans and thus, we react. It is ok if you lose your cool, but if there are days when it is happening often, there are some simple tips so you can keep calm when they are getting on your nerves.

What to do When they Get On Your Nerves?

Disappear

This is the best and the easiest strategy I feel. When the kids are troubling too much and you are getting irritated beyond a limit, just take a time out. Go to the bathroom or a room and lock yourself in for a bit. If you have someone to be with them, go for a quick walk or run. Basically, move away and calm down so you come back with renewed patience. Sometimes, kids take this time to settle as well so when you come back, it is a happy situation.

Find the Triggers

This is my observation in the quarantine. The schedule has changed and I end up working late at night. As a result, I am not fresh in the morning. This is the time of the day when my patience levels with Little Miss A are at the lowest level. I am a different person in the latter part of the day after I take a power nap.

The point here, you as a parent, need to see if there is something you need and do not have which makes you irritated. For some I have noticed, it is the work pressure and for some irritability with someone else in the house. Kids become the easier target the moment they do something wrong. Thus, see your needs first and attend to yourself. Kids will be ok as well.

Remember the Good Times

Your kids are undoubtedly adorable and I am sure each day they give you a million reasons to smile. Remember the good times and these moments and your anger will melt away.

I sometimes, just sit quietly and look at her pics on my phone. Some of them are too cute, and they just make me smile and I relax. And I am back to the battlefield with new strength and tactics. Sometimes just hugging these little munchkins calms you and them down as this is therapeutic.

Hugging has many benefits and one is to calm kids down. If you did not know thus, head to my post, Hug Your Kids When They Are Being Horrible.

Stay Away from Social Media

Now that I have advised you to look at your phone, just look at pictures. If you click on Facebook or Instagram you are gone. Why? Because here you will see the perfect pictures and videos of perfect moms and kids and you will feel more horrible. Moms and kids on social media are always better than you and your child, so stay away.

Have Some Me Time Daily

When you are spending all your time with the child, you are bound to get exhausted. Even if you are a working mom, you will be exhausted after doing that work all day. There should be some time of the day which is just yours. It should be your call, what you do.

One thing, I would recommend is exercise or go for a walk or jog with your headphones. This has health benefits and also you will be able to relax and feel better. Me time is important for everyone so why not you mummy? Moms should read the post, 10 Self Care Tips for Moms, to know how to pamper themselves and give priority to themselves.

They are Humans Too

The above are the 5 things I do to stay calm with Little Miss A. I know kids get on your nerves and you need an unlimited amount of patience but remember they are humans too. Little and not emotionally strong, they have their moments too.

Anxiety is a common issue with kids and there can be things that bother them. As parents, we need to help them and understand. If you feel they are pressing the wrong buttons and you will lose your cool, use some of my tips and I am sure you will de-stress and be back to handle them with full energy.

For tips to handle  anxiety, read, 6 Helpful Tips to Handle Anxiety In Toddlers.