If you thought its only working mothers who faced the great muddle of ‘work-life balance’ then think again. As a parent, fathers face this complication as much as mothers do. I see my husband trying to wrap up all work and spend more time with Little Miss A. I have heard many of my friends say in dismay when they stay up late working that they feel like a bad dad because they unable to spend enough time with their kids at home. Well, the struggle is real. Most men feel that the parental responsibilities often collide and conflict with the demands at their job.
Men, just like women are in the constant struggle between reaching the executive positions at job and maintaining a quality family life. Mothers still have an option to take a break or not work, but the father never gets this opportunity. In a recent interview conducted by The Guardian on work life balance among men, one of the male interviewees stated that men are expected to work hard at the job and earn fatter pay-checks; which in the current world is an absolute misconception. A father brings more to the table for his family than just a fatter pay-check.
With the rise of dual earning families In India from 25% in the 1960s to 60% in the 2010s, most fathers now recognise that child care and contributing to the household chores is a shared responsibility. Keeping aside the cultural stigma that a woman should be taking care of the household and men stay out and earn bread for the family which is on a long road for change.
Fathers, rather men, unlike women cannot multi task, but still are trying to balance all responsibilities and be good fathers to their children. Some tips which might help them to maintain the balance:
We significantly talk about gender equality associated with women and their struggle for equal pay, hold a position in the company’s board and the like. While today women can take 6 months maternity break, paternity leave still is of only 5 days, much less in certain organisations. Mothers are expected to look after the child, quit their jobs if they must but isn’t that the time a father’s contribution to child care equally important? In the current situation, where both the partners are earning, contributing equally to the household, sharing the tasks equally; we need to have a shift in the mindset that work life balance is meant only for working mothers.