It’s a human tendency to jump into conclusions without weighing the possibilities and we judge people without even being consciously aware of it. Be it creating an impression of someone from their first look or from an inconvenient conversation, we tend to judge very easily. Sooner or later, we realise that we were wrong. But how often does that happen? Someone would judge us too the way we do to them! While for few, judging others gives a sense of satisfaction about themselves and boosts their self-esteem, judging others is a harmful habit and should be avoided not for others but for own self. Here are few reasons why one should avoid judging people.
Lack of Facts and Information
The first and the simplest reason why one should not judge people is due to lack of information. Before you even attempt to judge someone over an issue or situation, ask yourself, do you know the facts about the circumstance? Do you know the whole story from both party’s point of view? Even if you find the person to be wrong in a situation, there should be no scope to judge the person because you are still unaware of the emotional or personal situation of the person and the circumstances which made him do wrong.
We are all Different
We all are different. Our choices, customs, the society we live in and grew up, financial conditions and many other factors as such. Judging someone for something you dislike or despise is not wise. You may not like tattoos, but you cannot judge someone who loves them. Instead of judging someone basis their preferences, embrace the diversity and let that nurture your personality.
No human is perfect
We all have imperfections while along with the imperfections we have certain qualities which are better than others, something that we are an expert at. Before you claim yourself to be a perfectionist and judge people for their mistakes, remember that people do certain things under certain circumstances and for various reasons. There is always more to learn from every human- if not skills then learn from their experiences, instead of judging their actions and thoughts.
Treat People the way you Wish to be Treated
Would you want someone to judge you for some of your actions without knowing your side of the story or perspective about the situation? No, right? Then it is unfair in your part to judge someone without knowing the facts. We live in a society where most of the work is done based on the relationship we build with the fellow humans. Do not ruin a relationship which took years to build by judging the person and speaking ill about them.
Tolerance is a virtue which very few possesses. If you cannot help someone solve a problem or assist them in finding a solution, mind your own business instead of judging the person. Cultivate tolerance- use meditation as a medium. This will not only save you from wasting time judging others situations and actions but will help you in finding solution to your own problems.
Appearances are Deceptive
It is said “Do not judge a book by its cover”. Therefore, it is unfair and unwise to judge someone by their appearance. If someone does not carry a luxury bag or do not dine out often, chances are they have other financial commitments rather being stingy.
Respect is earned when you give respect to others, irrespective of age or social status. When you judge someone, you not only disrespect the person but also invite disrespect for yourself for the image you create for yourself among others. Surely if you are judging someone, you should be receptive of being judged as well.
When you judge someone, you do not define them but define yourself. It is the image you create for yourself in-front of your family, friends and associates. If you wish to earn respect and regarded as a wise human, its time that you stop judging people. Live and Let Live.